During the holidays W sent me a number of messages trying to talk about the presents for the kids for the sake of avoiding duplication. I ended up sending her a PM stating that we had nothing to discuss as I trusted she would choose presents adequately for her home and so I would for mine. She replied with an statement that I was not able to separate talking about us and the kids and that she was making the most to talk about everything related to the kids. I told her I understood her frustration but I was not going to have the conversation and moved on.
Good job! In the future just bear in mind that she will always have something to say after your statement.....and that's how she pulls you in to an argument. You can't win with that woman. BTW, what do you mean by "moved on"?
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Christmas holidays have been way better than last year. Instead of spending everyday glued to my phone waiting for that message from W that never came, I put my phone away and chose to have fun with my family, friends and the kids. We bought fireworks, we dressed up S2 as a reindeer for the Christmas party at the nursery, I got them some great presents, I went out with friends, I met some women on occasional dates and I continued to exercise with the bike, running and playing tennis.
Wow! That's great!
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Not all has been nice and easy, just on New Year's eve as I arrived home alone after being with my family I broke down and spent about an hour crying in the solitude of my home,
Grieving takes its time, b/c it's like you have to process how things use to be, and accept they won't ever be exactly the same again. That's not to say your future can't be as good as the past, but it will be different. I'm really proud of you, Pack. It's taken you a long time, but you are becoming the man you were meant to be. My hat is off to you for the effort you put into improving your life, and in yourself as a man. In my book, that makes you successful. You have many good years ahead of you, and I want you to be happy with the man you have become.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
