Thank you so much job! I am a long-time fan of yours. I am sorry I haven't said anything before.

There is nothing more to be done. I've been divorced since May 2020. xH will move back to his home country soon.

Me: 52, xH:51
t since 1996, m 1999
DD 14 at BD, 17 now
Dec 2017: BD
Oct. 2018: xH moves out
May 2020: Divorced
xH moving back to home country with OW2


Like so many of us here, I'd been hanging on for dear life. All hope is gone and I am at peace. I think that's why recently



I am deeply grateful to what the light of this site, the divine love from on high and of our common humanity, have helped me accomplish. We mediated and spent a minimum on legal fees. I helped pull our teen daughter from all the classic divorce fall-out, include thoughts of self-harm. I bolstered the precious tie between DD and DxH.

I am deeply grateful that he has been supportive whenever he can, which goes a long way, especially given his own MLC. (He says now that he wasn't in crisis. He does seem much more like himself these days.)

Because of DB, I never once lost my temper with him. I only cried once in front of him, in mediation. I never once cried in front of our daughter about the estrangement, for fear of alienating her from DxH. He was by turns angry and depressed. It's been a tough three years.

But we have all survived covid thus far and I feel blessed. I thank heaven DH is still healthy and pray that he would be okay during his international travel and relocation.

Incidentally, DxH discovered this site as soon as I paid for some sessions with the wonderful counselors of this forum, a couple of weeks after BD. He noticed the expenditure, did some ingenious Googling, and figured out what I paid for. He was terrified after his discovery. He was convinced I am this nefarious plotter who would make him "lose everything," in his own words.

He needn't have worried. I found this site because I wanted to love my way out of this loss, like so many of us here. There aren't many places like this one!

(I understand his terror. From their point of view, someone who cannot take a hint - who would not believe or accept that the love is gone - is pathetic, insulting, presumptuous, delusional and detestable. That's how they feel. They have a right to such feelings.)