I like what you wrote accept you telling her not to make a decision while she’s confused. Sounds controlling. She’s going to feel confused for a really long time. You can’t compete with a fantasy.
Otherwise good stuff.
I think context is needed here. I pushed a little harder than I intended on the tough love thing. She thought I was demanding that she make a decision. It was more of an assurance that there was no pressure than me telling her to wait.
Yesterday she broke down again, talking about feeling guilty because she doesn't feel anything for me but wants to and I deserve better and all kinds of things like that. Then wanted to be alone.
She eventually started wandering the house again and I was headed to the store to pick up eggs, which turned into our son asking if we could get Chinese.. so, another family outing.
