Wayfarer, THANK YOU. This helps, a lot. I'm thinking through a lot of things right now. I feel some movement inside of me, maybe a path opening up that I didn't see before, but it is still a journey. I don't want to hijack your thread and so will move my response over to my own, but please know how much your perspective helps me.
Also... I don't think you need to try to be profound what you say always has such depth and truth and resonates. It doesn't have to be something special. I do think that your experiences and perspective can be really helpful here. It shows, to me, that DBing is a state of mind rather than a collection of actions. The actions can help to precipitate the state of mind and the letting go, but it is what happens within you that is the most important thing. Just an observation.
xoxo M
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
what you say always has such depth and truth and resonates. It doesn't have to be something special. I do think that your experiences and perspective can be really helpful here. It shows, to me, that DBing is a state of mind rather than a collection of actions. The actions can help to precipitate the state of mind and the letting go, but it is what happens within you that is the most important thing. Just an observation.
