I'm wondering a lot about what you post. This post is going to come across as very harsh, but i think you need serious help !
In 12 months you have not mentioned any of the abuse your ex husband put you through. Now suddenly, you have painted a very negative picture of him.
The whole ex story reminds me of a couple i knew from school. They got married, had children, he ended it due to her instability - For 12 months she tried to get him back, until he filed - Suddenly she is telling people he was abusive. He was devestated, that she would say such a thing....
I am friends with both of them on FB, and she frequently posts memos about surviving abuse and how she has become stronger...
I have known her for 25 years, and it was obvisous she was a Narcasist years ago - even more so with the rubbish she posts on social media.
I'll be honest - when i read your post a few days ago, the first person i thought of was her.
Then there is the pilot sitch - this isnt normal.
You jumped from wanting EX back to dating / pilot in a matter of posts.
You really need to look into Cluster B discorders. NPD and BPD are very similar. Unfortunetly, people with cluster NPD / BPD rarely admit it or want help.
The fact that your consistenly never ackowledge you need IC speaks for itself...
KK, this post isnt meant to be harsh - i just hope it makes you reflect.. Some of the stuff you write / actions are not healthy..
Best of luck
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.