Today I took a walk, and as I walked I began to think through all the ways my wife would control and manipulate me, which is funny because I never thought of it in those terms before. She was always keeping tabs on me. I basically had to ask permission to do anything and if I was gone longer than I said it was a major issue, even if it didn't impact anyone else. It was so bad that I was afraid to ask to go anywhere or to do anything.
So this is where your transformation begins. Most of us have been there. We believed we were behaving the right way. Time to behave different. Time to interact different.
This is a perfect example of good interaction from you:
Originally Posted by LH19
"No I have a previous engagement. "
You are always busy. During this phase of the process, you do not share details. If she tries to get info, you deflect.
Your life should not revolve around someone else's. Make it the other way around. Attract others into your Frame.
Wrapping your head around your parenting responsibilities during this process is also important. duckduckgo "Parenting with Love and Logic".
I was alternating between parenting books and self improvement books.
You are moving in the right direction.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
