Yes... [facepalm]... a list of reasons why he is done. Didn't need a response. Didn't need validation. Didn't need me stating my vaca was paid from joint assets... EXCEPT he wasn't done until he felt I was still accepting vacas from STBXH.... So should that be clarified???
I wouldn't clarify anything else with him, I don't really think that's an issue for him, he's just making it an issue because he's looking for reasons to exit stage left and blame you for it. Even if you could give him a very reasonable explanation, he's not going to listen. Or he'll find some other reason. It really seems like he just wants out at this point. Don't forget your DB'ing, the best thing to do right now is pull back and give him time and space.
Quote
This was NOT the first episode of road rage. I used to ask him to stop. Begged him to stop. Yelled at him to stop and all it did was ramp him up and then retaliate to me and not just the other jerk on the road. Then he's screaming at me and telling me to STFU. He did these episodes with the kids in the car too....
Wow that had to be incredibly frightening for you and especially the kids. Someone who puts loved ones in harm's way like that has some very serious anger management issues. I'm sorry you went through that!
Quote
That sort of surprised me because I frequently started our text conversations asking about his older dog. When he texted me at the end of a long day of flight I always validated that his schedule seems exhausting.
He's engaging in rewriting of history. His behavior is classis WAS stuff. Maybe you're too close to the situation to see it for what it is, but he's a walkaway. It happens, it's not always someone you're married to. It can be someone you've only dated briefly. Same walkaway pattern though. And you're making the same LBS mistakes of trying to pursue him, reason with him, explain to him, help him see things are not what he thinks they are. It doesn't work. All you can do is give him time and space. Maybe he'll reconsider later if you do. And maybe not. But the bottom line is the best thing for YOU right now is to leave him be.
Quote
And, then I took 24hr to really thing about what he wrote.... I wish I could say I left it there but I did not. I spilled my guts...
And I'm sure it got you nowhere, right? Time and space!
