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Oh Eagle, I'm so sorry you are going through this. You have had some amazing advice so far and from here it sounds like you are choosing what is best for you and your kids.

My XH is currently in replay (I think). It's just bizarre to watch. One thing I had to do that wasn't great at the time, but I'm glad I did - was to talk to my older son (17) at the time, and let him know that he had agency. He could choose boundaries with his dad and myself in what he was comfortable with. His dad was drink driving. I let S17 know that it was up to him to get another ride, or drive,

You might consider al-anon if it's available in your area (or zoom etc). Your kids would benefit from knowing that they don't have to be available for their dad when he is drunk. That's so hard for them to navigate, that's why I suggest a support group for kids with alcoholic parents.

Sometimes the kids don't know what they are free to not put up with.