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Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2) Mar252 #2912257 01/10/21 04:11 AM
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97Hope Member 9 Joined: Mar 2018 Posts: 569 Likes: 9	Originally Posted by Mar252 As the date gets closer my anxiety is starting to increase. Have no idea how I will manage the in-house separation. Determined to DB appropriately and detach as much as possible. Try to stay in today. A pastor I love called today "channel 2" - channel 1 was the past (we can't change it) channel 3 is the future (we don't know it). I like how May (I think but on the previous thread) suggested a punch-list of sorts for what you can look at. Look at jobs (maybe you could start that online search and get a head start? Focus on what you know you Need to do, and not what you imagine. Helps to regulate emotions when we don't try and fortune tell. Originally Posted by Mar252 Despite all of the lying and cheating I cannot fathom a life without her. This is completely normal and as you do the work on your own, the fear and awful feelings surrounding this will get better. Try not to go to channel 3. (I know it's hard! Just keep swimming) I've been reading about self-differentiation and detachment. Originally Posted by Mar252 When we married it was sincerely a life long commitment on my part. Never imagined hearing my W tell me that she was no longer in love with me and did not want the marriage. You honored and continue to honor that commitment. You shouldn't have had to imagine it, let alone live it. Since it was handed to you, you can use this time to be the best Mar ever. Time is a gift. I know it doesn't feel like it but you can use it to focus on your own growth. Spiritual, Emotional, Physical. One day at a time. One hour/minute if need be. This is YOUR time. Originally Posted by Mar252 It'e been 3.5 months since we separated and it hasn't gotten any easier. Still struggling with the pain and anger on a daily basis. It will get better as you continue to GAL and focus your energy on your own personal growth. I am so sorry that you are in pain. Use the anger to drive you to succeed as an individual. You need strength to get through this and you have it in you, just need to tap into it. Difficult if not impossible to do if you are focused on your W. You aren't alone and you will not always feel this way. I know it's hard to believe, but I've been there. Big hugs (((mar))) Last edited by 97Hope; 01/10/21 04:14 AM. ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19 8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21 Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/10/21 02:43 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/10/21 04:11 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/10/21 12:45 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/10/21 06:03 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Yail	01/10/21 05:15 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/11/21 04:47 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/11/21 05:35 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Joe2017	01/11/21 06:13 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/12/21 07:07 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Joe2017	01/13/21 11:55 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/15/21 12:39 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Traveler	01/15/21 12:59 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/15/21 01:06 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/15/21 01:16 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/15/21 01:29 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/15/21 01:31 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/15/21 01:39 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/15/21 03:16 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/15/21 03:38 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/15/21 11:13 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/15/21 11:47 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/16/21 04:10 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Joe2017	01/17/21 07:17 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/16/21 04:57 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/16/21 02:54 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/16/21 03:27 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/17/21 03:26 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/17/21 04:00 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Traveler	01/17/21 04:49 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	CanBird	01/17/21 06:11 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Yail	01/17/21 07:23 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/21/21 11:32 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/22/21 12:24 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/22/21 06:56 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/22/21 07:05 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/24/21 04:32 AM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	Mar252	01/25/21 05:46 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	97Hope	01/25/21 11:30 PM
Re: How am I going to do this? Should I do this? (2)	may22	02/01/21 06:48 PM

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