So we talked / sorry. But it is a sitch where me ignoring might hurt more than help as she wants to plan her move out the next week.
Update is that she signed the apartment we talked about and wants to move there next week. Now comes the interesting part and where I need some good input.
She said we should talk about how we split up things (we bought everything 50/50). Things and furniture. This led to a bit of a discussion on the phone (which I tried to avoid but was not super good at). I should have said that we can talk about that in person, but we talked about it anyway and I kind of communicated that I happily pay her out of the furniture, even more than 50% if needed. But that I don't just want to be left with an empty apartment - after all she decided to leave (maybe should have left that out). She mentioned that legally the less well-off person normally gets things and stays in the apartment. To which I just said that I definitely don't want her to be feel badly treated in this situation and be safe, but also that she got a cheaper apartment already so that is a plus for her compared to staying.
Anyhow, it was a semi-confrontational conversation but I tried and succeeded to keep most of my cool and validate her feelings about the new not so nice apartment and this situation.
Now comes my question: How to do this in a fair and amicable way that does not upset her even more? I don't want to have a big argument on Tue that splits and disconnects us even more.
I think it is a bit unfair that she feels entitled to the furniture when she is the one breaking up, leaving me behind and needing to start from scratch. But I also understand that she paid 50% of it and I am happy to pay her out and give her slightly more money or some furniture items - I don't want to be a douche and be supportive.
I think I am a bit afraid of being left behind in an empty apartment without a girlfriend - it sounds rather lonely
