So 1st before I answer your question, please answer one for me first.
Why do you feel the need to be overly nice to a woman who has left you for the third time?
Because I love her and we spent 7 years together - I don't resent her or hate her. I do want the best for her in some way and if she decides that we are not it that's fine in a way.
Ok that's fine. I get that you feel yes and no feels cold to you. So right now she views you as low value. She's not buying what you are selling and is shopping for something else. How do you create value? Scarcity. She has to miss you if she is going to want to be with you again. You need to be as scarce and mysterious as possible.
