Very few people actually get it and make so many mistakes in the beginning. Then you begin to question everything like "what do a bunch of strangers on internet know about my situation". But 1st, know this - you will have wished you listened to the advice given here.
I was just like you. I think we even live in the same city. I had so many reasons to question what other posters were saying. There are cultural differences I would often think. Unfortunately most of us get it too late and the damage is already done. However, we'll be experts on what to do should anything similar happen in the future so keep posting.
And btw, not a single person here has or will every say that you should be cold towards your partner/wife/ex.
Are you in Gothenburg? Yeah, not being cold but just saying Yes or No seems quite cold for me.
In DBing, going by emotions is usually going to lead you down the wrong path. You have to remain logical. It usually helps if you read the distance-pursuit dynamic. I suggest you read that thread.
It short, it is kind of like playing with a dog. When you chase the dog, the dog runs away, but when you run the other way the dog will run towards you. The more you run toward her the further she will run the other way. But if you pull back then there is a chance she may get curious and come towards you. DB is no guarantee of reconciliation, but it gives you much better chance than pressure and pursuit.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
