Very few people actually get it and make so many mistakes in the beginning. Then you begin to question everything like "what do a bunch of strangers on internet know about my situation". But 1st, know this - you will have wished you listened to the advice given here.
I was just like you. I think we even live in the same city. I had so many reasons to question what other posters were saying. There are cultural differences I would often think. Unfortunately most of us get it too late and the damage is already done. However, we'll be experts on what to do should anything similar happen in the future so keep posting.
And btw, not a single person here has or will every say that you should be cold towards your partner/wife/ex.
Are you in Gothenburg? Yeah, not being cold but just saying Yes or No seems quite cold for me.
