If your goal is to be best buddies, then you did fine. If your goal is to win her back, then you were better off not even calling her back.
I thought you were going to do NC? The rules of no contact are pretty simple. IF she calls you do not answer. You are busy, remember? If it is important she will leave a message. Or followup with a text. If she does either, the rules for responding is to ONLY respond to direct questions via text. But then in your own time (not right away) and in as few words as possible. Yes or no questions get yes or no answers.
Walkaways often want to keep their ex around as BFFs. I am assuming you want to avoid the friend-zone.
Hm yeah, I just feel it's a bit douche when we said that about this important subject we will communicate - in the end we are just humans as well no?
Completely up to you 1st! Think about this, what if you had made your offer.....and she accepted. Could you live with her long-term as platonic roommates? You are acting out of fear, not out of strength. This is why detachment is so important. Until you can get to a better place where you are happy on your own, you will continue to try to nice her back. YOU CANNOT NICE HER BACK. It never works.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
