Yes! Destroy that coupling equipment and sand it down, polish it smooth so when she throws that hook your way, there is nothing to catch on.
Here's another weird thing that helped me-- there are a couple of videos about stoicism on YouTube that somehow spoke to me and really helped me to detach and let go of that which is outside of my control. The guy's name is Ryan Holiday and the video is called you control how you play. Maybe watch that.
Another thing that helped me see my H more clearly and let go of my preconceived image of H was the chump lady's website. Really helped me fuel up for why I didn't want to be with him anymore. Maybe check that out too.
xx M
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing