I know there is no right or wrong way to move through this challenging time in our lives (key word is moving through... we all need to move through it one way or another, not stay stagnant) and we all gather the tools we need and take the advice that works for us as individuals in our growth.
You are absolutely correct one way or another you are moving through it. I think it's good to have hope early on because it gets people motivated to make the changes they need to make. But after awhile I think hope can lead to major disappointment because after all the definition of hope is "a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen". This IMO causes suffering.
It really for me comes down to you want people in your life who respect you and bring you joy. If your husband does not respect you and bring you joy then he gets the gift of missing you. Business partner only in the business of raising your children.
