Making the best of the mess.

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Jan 2021.

DIL came over tonight and let me know that STBX has started introducing "J" to the family. He introduced her as his GF to a cousin.

She did some digging and realized that it was the same J that I thought he had been with.

So...for 3 1/2 years he had a girlfriend.

Of course I was sad, and grossed out, but then I was relieved.

It all makes sense now. I was out of the country and came home to find out he went to an attorney.

He started seeing her that summer.

He told me the divorce was because we had too many arguments. I was not a good wife. I had issues etc etc.

So now I know.

He is trying to play it off to the kids that this is a new relationship.

I told DIL what I knew and that it wasn't my problem anymore.

GF isn't much to look at but she was his partners old assistant. She transferred jobs shortly after they started seeing each other. She was going through her own divorce when they hooked up. She has two young children.

I don't understand the cheating. But more than that - why the deceit. For so long.

I gave him chance after chance to just tell me.

I'm glad the divorce is almost final.