So in response to the crazy omen bird lady....... What does not give up mean to you? Write the embossed apology letter? Ask your STBXH for another chance? Try more manipulation? Stop sleeping and acting trampy with pilots?
So in response to the crazy omen bird lady....... What does not give up mean to you? Write the embossed apology letter? Ask your STBXH for another chance? Try more manipulation? Stop sleeping and acting trampy with pilots?
What will not giving up look like?
I have no idea.....
And, no I am not writing any type of embossed apology. I've apologized all I need too. I owned my crap and I'm cleaning up my side of the street.
I stated earlier that there is nothing I can do in regards to STBXH. If there is ever a move in my direction it has to come 100% from him. I've let go of the outcome. Not only have I filed for D... I just paid to retain an accountant.
As for the pilot... the landing strip is still on fire... but, I'm not chasing him anymore either.
I think "do not give up" literally means "do nothing right now".
KC, thanks for sharing, that's very interesting. If nothing else it should at least give you some hope that you're not in this alone. You have a support group here and also in your real life, and perhaps in some kind of guardian angel or spirit watching over you.
And just a reminder to all of us, me included- KC and others here are going through a very difficult time just like we all have. Let's try to advise them while remaining sensitive to their suffering, and gentle in our comments.
AS you’re right. KK I’m sorry about my last post. Definitely insensitive on my part. I’ll do better.
LH I learned a long time ago you come across as extremely insensitive but you have the best of intentions. Sort of like when I try to be confident, flirty and sexy in a text message to pilot but it desperately falls flat as passive aggressive and needy due to lack of tone and body language ---- we don't always hit our mark.
Kitty, a couple of months ago, I turned on my car and at that exact moment the song that my STBXW and I danced to at our wedding started. Its an old song and not one i would ever expect to hear on that particular radio station, in fact I'd never heard it played on the radio ever. I was sure it was a sign, but most of all I desperately wanted it to be.
But she is still sleeping with someone else, still living away from me and still acting in the most selfish of ways. Sometimes things just happen.
I do enjoy reading your posts and appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, I think you'll make someone very happy once you get yourself into a happy and confident place.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
Kitty, a couple of months ago, I turned on my car and at that exact moment the song that my STBXW and I danced to at our wedding started. Its an old song and not one i would ever expect to hear on that particular radio station, in fact I'd never heard it played on the radio ever. I was sure it was a sign, but most of all I desperately wanted it to be.
But she is still sleeping with someone else, still living away from me and still acting in the most selfish of ways. Sometimes things just happen.
I do enjoy reading your posts and appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, I think you'll make someone very happy once you get yourself into a happy and confident place.
Thanks!!!
I know NOTHING has changed with STBXH. NOTHING. Well, that's not entirely true. He thinks were friends... well in his mind we are friends. He can contact me about the dog, the cell bill, we can talk D stuff and financial statements but its not like he is asking things like "hey did you have a great NYE?".
I did nothing for 24hr. Nothing in regards to STBXH and nothing in regards to pilot. Frankly, I don't really even know pilot... I was hooked on intrigue and mystery and some promising sex.... LOL!
Today I'm throwing myself into cooking. Since being an empty nester my fridge looks like I'm a college student... wine and coffee are all thats in there. So making garlic confit... then lasanga... with home made garlic bread.
Good dating prospects are ready, willing, able and open to dating. We all know people who are dating significant others that are not good for them, but they are blinded by infatuation, interest and desperation to be in a relationship. Great relationships, like all great things, take time to find, develop and grow. Most people make poor choices because they are extremely impatient and want everything to happen now, instead of having a curious attitude to see what will happen next. People who are good to you, good for you and good for your soul don’t come along very often, but when they do, you will know and feel it in your soul instantly. Choose wisely.” ~
Good dating prospects are ready, willing, able and open to dating. We all know people who are dating significant others that are not good for them, but they are blinded by infatuation, interest and desperation to be in a relationship. Great relationships, like all great things, take time to find, develop and grow. Most people make poor choices because they are extremely impatient and want everything to happen now, instead of having a curious attitude to see what will happen next. People who are good to you, good for you and good for your soul don’t come along very often, but when they do, you will know and feel it in your soul instantly. Choose wisely.” ~
