One question I have is that thing about going dark: I was not fully emotional available to her in the last weeks, so I am wondering if showing affection is not actually better?
She originally wanted to meet during the first weeks of S, but I said it is better to take a break due to the emotions involved after her moving out. She didn't like that at all, but accepted it.
I understand the idea of NC and working on oneself rather than focusing on the other person, just wondering how the 180 view is on such a situation?
If we had a dime for every newcomer that struggled with that very thing, myself included, the forum would be full of billionaires.
DBing is counter-intuitive. I mean even the statement "let them go to get them back" seems backwards. But the intuitive hasn't worked for you, has it? Isn't this the third time she has moved out? So flip the script, go dark. You did the right thing not meeting with her. It was the right thing because it let you start moving forward, and it showed her what life without you would be like. Keep DBing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
