Unfortunately, none of that works. Many LBSs have done the "are you sure" thing multiple times, only to get crushed by the answer they got every single time. You see, even if she isn't sure, you asking her that will emboldened her to say the opposite. When WASs come back, it has to be their idea. That is why the advice to give them time and space is so important. The opposite of not giving them time and space is to pressure and pursue. WASs cannot come to the conclusion that they made a mistake on their own when the LBSs keeps asking "are you sure?" It turns into the same dynamic that drives the adults nuts when every 5 minutes on a trip the kids ask "are we there yet?"
I do have to give you a lot of credit Scott. When you struggle with this you come here and voice it. We've seen so many LBSs that come back to us after the fact and say "Well, I asked him/her one last time, are you sure? And he/she told me that there was not even a snowball's chance in hell that they will ever come back." And then they get 2x4'd for breaking the rules. At least you are floating it here before acting! So good for you. But believe it or not, you best chance to ever get her back is to let her go.
1) I dropped off the kids stuff today. I had to make three trips to the car. As I was taking stuff to her porch she was taking stuff in and we saw each other and talked briefly. It took everything that I had in me not to temperature check - literally everything. I'll see her again tomorrow when we refinance our mortgage and then not until Friday the 15th at one of my son's sporting events.
2) Steve85 - Is this the best advice to reconcile and the only chance? "That is why the advice to give them time and space is so important."
