Welcome 1st! Sorry you are going through this and struggling. When non-married folks come here and are having the difficulties you are, my first response is always to get out while you can! Dating, and pre-marriage is to vet out a relationship. I've never met a couple that had issues before marriage where those issues got better after marriage.

Now, I am sure the your heart disagrees with that. In fact, you may have had the same thoughts, so your brain and your heart might even be at odds with each other. I know what I stated above is easier said than done. But there are so many great people out there that you could forge such a solid R with, that it saddens me when unmarried folks come here stuck (by choice) with a walkaway partner that they have no legal entanglements that are preventing them from moving on from. Lots of us that have been married, and then DB'd, have had the thought that we wish we could go back and to never have married our S (though most of us that have had that thought wouldn't trade our kids that resulted from the marriage for the world!). You are already in that place.

Anyway, just my thought. Obviously it is your life and you will make the decisions you want to make, and that is okay. My opinion above and $1 will get you a box of popcorn.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018