A tip on negotiating, listen to what H is proposing. Let H feel like it is his idea. MLCers are mixed up and confused. They will flip flop on arrangements all the time. If the arrangement comes from them, or they feel like it has come from them, it has a better chance of sticking than if it comes from you. Consider whatever H may propose; you’d be surprised at what some people are willing to throw away as they run off to their fantasy. And as odd as those proposals seem to you and us rational folks, agreeing to their demands grease the wheels. My separation was complete in 60 days after BD. Of course I had a high energy vanishing runner on my hands. I wonder when she will tire.
Thank you for this advice. I haven't looked yet in that perspective and you are so right.
Whenever I'm friendly and detached his guilt comes to surface and then he says I can have all of it, if I confront him with any of the mistakes he made he gets angry and threatens to take everything from me. (which of course he can't)
