LH - The actions you named do not speak of confusion. Does Christmas speak of confusion? She was confiding in me about her job search, talking about the challenges of the new home, took a nap at my house on Christmas day, stayed here with the kids until 4:30p when I needed to ask them to go because I had plans (they were supposed to leave after breakfast). Of course she could have been doing it for the kids, and of course she could have had a weak moment. I think everything is on a spectrum. The weight of evidence is strongly in the divorce, no reconciliation camp. But her reaching out to me the other day to say she was making a scrapbook online of the kids childhood and asking if I wanted her to print me one or the other day when she asked if I needed help getting my son to soccer practice, I don't know - those are interesting moments to. I found out she did get a job offer, and she has not shared that with me -happened a week ago. So most of the signals, but not quite all, point in the direction you laid out. And yes, my emotions are not helping me.
Scott, I 100% understand where you are coming from, my XW sent many of those exact same signals after BD. I kid you not, she also made new scrapbook pages and asked me if I wanted copies just like your W did! I hung a lot of hope on those things, and eventually it was all convincing enough for me to temperature check her. And when I did, it was BD all over again. 0% chance of recon, full steam ahead with finding a place, I need to move on, etc. etc. I touched the hot stove more than once but eventually I got burned enough to quit touching it. Learn from my mistakes! For now your W is done with the M and all of this "playing house" stuff is just classic cake-eating, nothing more. She wants to pursue her new life while also clinging to remnants of the old one. Just stick to your DB'ing and don't let these things confuse you.
