B. Accept the fact that the bomb was not your wayward wife’s way of warning you that the marriage was in trouble. She was not trying to wake you in order to work on the marriage. It was her way of telling you it is too late and she is done with it. Do not act upon your urges to plead with her for another chance. Do not try to prove how much you love her. This is not the time. She doesn’t want it and will reject it.
SUCH A GREAT POINT. I know I struggled with this. I see other LBHs really struggling with this. The time to "fix" the marriage was up to two years prior! By time the WAW/WW gets up the nerve to blow things up, it is too late at that point. Which is why becoming super-Husband has little to no chance of working, even though that is the instinctual and intuitive response.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
