When you moved over to the MLC forum I was concerned that you were doing it to hold on longer. I think it's time to let go and move on with your own life.
Just wanted to chime in here because I know that when my heart was RAW, this kinda comment would kill me and would also propel me into not visiting the boards anymore.
Also MLC is LOOOOONG. It takes forever. You are a baby LBSer in terms of MLC. You might want to keep coming here off and on for years just to have kind voices who understand the insanity. Maybe one day your H will wake up and you'll want to talk about that too, whether you "moved on" or not.
In short, I agree about the boundaries but not about letting go and moving on. It's just not possible to get there because someone tells you to. Maybe you want to stand for your marriage and NOT move on. That's your choice and it's a beautiful choice! You do not need the pressure of trying to move on and feeling bad about yourself because you can't or don't want to. You just need to figure out some boundaries that will give you some peace and keep the MLC monster outside the back door and not at the kitchen table. You don't need to know what is going to happen or anything else. You just need to put one foot out in front of you and then the next one. Right now you want to figure out how to get the boundaries you need to parallel parent and have less contact. Take one tiny step per day -- e.g., "This week I will not answer any of H's text except on Fridays." And after you do the step successfully, give Sage a big hug and say, "Well done! This is dang hard and I did that!"
Last edited by Gerda; 01/04/2107:06 PM.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
