Hope your holidays went well. Was wondering if the conversation of divorce came up with your boys? 19 & 21 right?
Just recently I had the divorce talk with my D4. That went over well. (pop over to my posts for details). My D was final just before Halloween. And I've been asking XH repeatedly for his input on what to say to D4. He's never given me any assistance there, just an "I don't know". I felt like, he was the one who left, so he should say something or at the very least, give me something to work with. But in the end, it was me that told her, and that's okay. Don't wait if it's weighing on you.
Your S19 & S21 are use to their parents living apart, yes? These young men probably have the notion that divorce may be in the works. Maybe they don't want to bring it up with you because they aren't sure if they should. I started the conversation off with my D4 by talking about my wedding ring, that I wasn't wearing it anymore because we were no longer married.
Once the conversation starts, things get easier.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
