Sage, if time could rewind, I would go NC a lot sooner than I did. It’s natural for us to try to make sense of everything, try to understand what the MLCer is going through....but like Gerda said, there is no point talking to the Crazy. When consistent sanity returns, you will know. Don’t get caught up on the occasional niceties he’s showing.
A parallel parenting situation is actually best for the children in this scenario, because the MLCer is so unpredictable (or predicabily crazy) and it’s pretty much impossible to come to a consensus on anything with your H at this point. The children’s relationship with dad is out of your hands. Your H needs to worry about that himself. I totally agree with scout on this. My house my rules. His house his rules. Kids are smart, they will observe and figure out who’s the reliable and responsible parent they can trust.
