So hedlite, I just finished reading your long post.
Wow. I didn't quote it in case you ever need it deleted, but that was a very tough read. Extremely tough. You've been dealing with a feckless, weak, and spineless husband for years. You've been dealing with someone that has no respect for you. Someone that prioritizes virtually everything else above you. I mean the anniversary thing, not celebrating it for the first four years, is huge.
So what are you trying to save here? I'm sorry but it appears you've been eating helpings of crap sandwiches for years. I've gone on record here before wondering how spouses, and wives in particular, can put up with so much for so long. It saddens me that you value yourself so little that you'd put up with all this for so long. I'm not saying that to be mean or callous, I mean I feel for you greatly. But I say it because I'd love for you to find that value and then draw boundaries, have deal-breakers, and form core values based on that value. I feel with the history of this relationship the worst thing you could do is to further sacrifice and rollover for this man just to save your marriage.
What you describe in your post isn't marriage. It is a woman allowing herself to be walked over by a man that deprioritizes her in almost all cases.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
