The incident prior to you having intercourse was really difficult to read. I can understand frustration on his part if he was not as dogmatic was you were. The fact he was aggravated about it is a red flag. I'm unclear if you were just dating or married at this time? If not married, had you told him you wanted to remain celibate until marriage?
We were just dating. We had only been dating three months at this point, though we were acquaintances for a few years prior to dating.
He is not religious whatsoever. He was baptized Catholic, but that's it.
No, I had not told him I wanted to remain celibate until marriage, but I think he was afraid I wanted to. I would have been happy to remain celibate until marriage, but I knew he had tremendous disdain for the idea, and I wasn't going to make him wait until marriage for me. I was expecting that we would have intercourse eventually, before marriage. But I wasn't ready for it yet when he had that confrontation with me. In fact, when we started having intercourse, I still wasn't ready.
Thanks for your reply.
I agree with Harvey. Religious or not this was/is a huge red flag. On both sides. That he pressured and didn't respect you enough to wait. And that you were willing to do that before you were ready. Relationships are built on a foundation and when that foundation has stones like this in it then it will only be a matter of time before the cracks begin to show.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
