I agree with Thornton. Getting into IC was an awesome step. Keep working on you.

You're also in a decent place with your sitch. The WAS being unsure of what they want is pretty common. But it's better than them running for the door. The problem is that you are clinging to that and think it means you need to pressure and pursue. Because that comes very natural to us. Backing off, giving time and space, DBing is scary and feels like we are giving up on them.

The problem is that he has to decide to come back on his own. Talking him into it, trying to convince him you've changed isn't going to work. So learn how to listen and validate. Stop initiating R talks, and use listening and validating when he does.

I'm liking the efforts on 180s, now just get better at GAL and detachment and give things time.

Last edited by Steve85; 12/30/20 04:39 PM.
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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
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