I have a deep deep fear of abandonment, and I have vulnerable traits that trigger to make me hypersensitive, argumentative, mean, anxious, etc...when I feel someone is in the midst of abandoning me or hurting me. My therapist has acknowledged that this kind of thing is very hard to treat, but that I've got a lot of insight and have made some real progress, and I'm still trying to keep make progress. Changing this kind of stuff is very hard. I feel very much like a broken person a lot of the time.
Hey Liz - sorry to hear about your recent struggles. While reading your post, this jumped out at me. I'm glad you are talking to IC about this. Do you have abandonment issues from your childhood?
Second, relationship talks are big no-no's. Every time you talk about the R with your H, you are reminding him that things are bad at the moment. Instead, stop talking about the relationship and show him through ACTIONS that you are working on yourself and growing as a person.
It sounds like your H is still unsure about which direction he wants to go which is good. But you need to stop making mistakes. Have you read Sandi's rules?
