So guy doesn’t ask to see you in three weeks and you show up almost naked and you don’t see why he might think you’re a little off your rocker?
Your timeline is a little backward...
I showed up at his house nearly naked.... great time... then for the next 3 weeks he never made an effort to lock down anything with me... granted for 7 days I was out of state.
So friend calls you a train wreck but says husbands a fool. Doesn’t make sense.
He was FLIRTING....
He said my husband was a fool for what he did.... states I'm amazing but at the moment a bit of a trainwreck... and then said I'm welcome to come to FL anytime... he'd pick me up at the airport... WHAT??? Yup, he just tired to hit the trainwreck!!! LOL.
And I have a little feeling as to why and it disappoints me... freaking male ego. I'm going to put it out there for all the men to read.... just because you don't get a girl to O doesn't mean she didn't have an amazing time. Its not easy for me to let go control/relax... it takes time in the depart. Even with my H I really didn't need to EVERY time. It still feels amazing. AND, I told him as much how awesome it felt... BUT, I won't fake it either.
I think he feels its an impossible task... when I just need more time. But, I think that was end of the story.
I’m not going to lie I have an ego and you not getting off is not going to stop me from wanting to see you. I think the likely problem is you are unstable and he doesn’t feel safe with you.
I’m not going to lie I have an ego and you not getting off is not going to stop me from wanting to see you. I think the likely problem is you are unstable and he doesn’t feel safe with you.
Ok... all I have to go on are his complaints of that... feeling like it was an impossible task and he wasn't interested in that.
Also that he brought up stepping up my D a couple of times...
In fact the day I left for my trip I got a weird text from him... I think it was meant for someone else.
P: Cloudy tonight. You taking your hubby with you. Me: ? Me: I'm not taking my hubby anywhere except maybe divorce court. I'm thinking you texting the wrong person. P: Maybe divorce court. I think the jury is still out on that case. Me: No, its happening. Just logistics at this point. Atty has had all the documents since Oct.
On my way home he texts he finds it odd that someone you are divorcing would give you ff miles... so he is questioning how serious I am about D?
So is he waiting to see if I'm actually keeping my word? He's in law enforcement so he can access court docs for free - he would be able to confirm that D was filed.
I shouldn't be spending so much energy on this but I suppose it keeps me from focusing on filing for D tomorrow.
So are you filing for the lazy lover pilot/police officer/secret agent?
Well I know it time to file. I actually feel okay about. I also know if I don't file my H will in 2 months because that's when the Legal S expires.
But, yes I was pushing things forward because I got the feeling from his texts a couple of weeks ago that he was uncomfortable or uncertain that I was not. I wanted him to feel that I would not be running back to my H... I mean I was dead honest when I told him my STBXH would never ever be moving back into my home. And, he will never will. I told him right now STBXH provides all health care for myself and SS19 and that why things were the way they were.
So yeah... totally dumb of me.
So he's out of the picture now... but I'm still filing tomorrow... and I'm still okay with it.
Well if your H was interested in you then you would go running back but that’s another story.
The odds that you were going to live happily ever after with the first guy you slept with are slim. Think of it as a learning process. Effort on both ends.
Well if your H was interested in you then you would go running back but that’s another story.
The odds that you were going to live happily ever after with the first guy you slept with are slim. Think of it as a learning process. Effort on both ends.
I'm accepting that it was a rebound... and now that I've slept with someone else... makes it easier to move on from my H.
