Divorce shouldn’t be the end of your life. You are way more than your marriage. Your identity goes way beyond that and it’s probably the right time to find put what that is. And I don’t think your identity involves being a man chaser .
The reality is, even if you would have liked to date him, it wasn’t an option . I don’t think he is a bad guy either. But why would he want to get serious with a woman who is still married and is clearly not over her ex and doesn’t have her emotional sh!t together? It’s not an insult. It’s a reality. Would you want to date a man seriously who was in your position and state right now ? Get divorced, become emotionally healthy and treat yourself with respect. And stop talking to the married man! I got in 2 of those situations where a “friend” was in an “unhappy” marriage and was trying to cheat with me. One guy ended up stalking me when I said no way. Again, treat yourself with respect and love. Because you aren’t doing that right now. And others aren’t going to treat you the same until you treat yourself that way. Trust me, I’ve been there
