Ok so here’s the problem. There is nothing wrong chatting it up with your STBXH and being friendly with him if that’s what you want moving forward. The problem lies in that’s what you are communicating to him. Then he thinks your friends and calls you to ask puppy questions etc.
Then you come on here saying he called me about puppy. Why would he do that???????????????????
Do you see where he will end up being confused? He has not problems asking you for favors and treating you like an administrative assistant if you allow it.
I do see that.
When he asked me to watch the puppy, I told him I'd love too. But, I was thinking of it more from the puppy's vantage. Being boarded 3 weeks is hard enough and he is a very active athletic dog at risk of losing his tail. Its not good for him to be in small tight spaces like a boarding kennel. Sure it shouldn't be my job to be concerned about that. But, I am. I agreed more of as a service to the dog than doing my STBXH a favor.
I've accepted that he has friend zoned me. It is what it is.
I'm not looking to actively reach out to him to continue this friendship. But, I realize that any reach out from him is because he believes we are friends. I cannot read anything into it - we are proceeding with the D.
