OB after reading your sitch and seeing what you are going through. It sounds like you’re a great dad too. Hopefully you all aren’t caught up I the newest lockdown over the ditch.
Steve85 I have always had a glass is half full attitude.
Just got a text fro STBXW “would you like to come over tomorrow and open presents with S3?
Any advise on what I should text back or do?
He is staying with her and the MIL until tomorrow, I had planned on collecting him in the morning. S3 and I are travelling to see my family later Christmas Day.
Originally Posted by NZkiwi
Cheers OB/Steve85.
OB after reading your sitch and seeing what you are going through. It sounds like you’re a great dad too. Hopefully you all aren’t caught up I the newest lockdown over the ditch.
Steve85 I have always had a glass is half full attitude.
Just got a text fro STBXW “would you like to come over tomorrow and open presents with S3?
Any advise on what I should text back or do?
He is staying with her and the MIL until tomorrow, I had planned on collecting him in the morning. S3 and I are travelling to see my family later Christmas Day.
N,
So this is a tough one for sure. First off I want to say you must be doing a great job of giving her space for her to invite you. She’s not afraid you are going to pursue her and she has to reject you again.
So obviously going with expectations would be not good and probably set you back. Going would most likely set the stage for you to be in the friend zone. That is not necessarily a bad thing if your ok with it. Most people here are not.
My suggestion to you would be that if this is a tradition you are going to carry forward no matter if the two of you are in relationships then do it. This is an arrangement that works well for a least one poster. If this is not a tradition you will carry forward then I would respectfully decline. I chose to do the first two Christmas mornings together and am no longer am going to carry on the tradition. It’s been difficult getting my daughter to understand why it isn’t happening anymore. Your son is young enough that he probably wouldn’t understand the difference.
