Steve I know you mean well but Blue’s right and you know I have taken issue with your comments in the past that reconciliation is harder then divorce. You’ve never had to read a note from your child that all they want is their parents to get back together.
IHS while living someone who has a real affair partner cannot be over looked and discounted. It makes it almost impossible to detach which pushes the WW further a way. No one knows for sure but if your W had a real AP and a job it might have ended differently for you. I posted a little while ago you may want to look back and see how long it took you to embrace DB and detach.
Lastly I think Thorton and Lim would tell you to knock on wood because they came back to the board stating how DB saved their marriage only get bomb dropped again.
LH, been a while since that exchange. I believe I said it was more difficult to R than D in certain ways. But it really isn't a contest. Both are extremely difficult, and have their own unique challenges. You rightly pointed out that I didn't know how D felt personally because I've never been through, which I agreed was a fair point.
However, this isn't the first time you've suggested that I 'becareful' because it could happen again. I can assure you if it does the next time won't be from lack of trying on my part! The sad part to me is that I almost detect a tinge of hoping it does on your part. Regardless, I wish nothing but the best for you in the furture. I'll continue to pray for you as I do many in this forum.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
