hi all!
Thanks a lot for the tips! I will check the information on both the youtube channel and I will start today NMMNM!

W has been in touch a couple of times saying she wants to talk to me about a couple of subjects related to the kids. She always makes comments about how we should "talk about the kids" in a way that she implies it is my fault as I cannot accept our S and therefore I cannot have the relationship she expects me to have now.

The children are fine, S7 is here with me as I type and I will soon pick up S2 from kindergarten. I don't want to talk with her unless there is a medical issue or emergency. Maybe I am being childish, I don't know. Last time she ended up insulting me on the streets and at this point I am just tired. I don't want any more interactions with her, I don't want to be reminded how cold she has turned towards me and I don't want to think about the hell I have lived in 2020 and all her words about being free to do anything she wants and not owing me a thing. I need help from the board, how do I put this idea to her in respectful and strong words?

This is what I want to say. "The children are both doing great and there is no need for us to talk. Anything you want to say to me you can say it per email. Have a great holiday" (after all, she was the one to push for the S agreement I so much dread and where it says from now on we communicate via email)

I am hurting more than usual today, I don't know why maybe it is because I saw her yesterday as I had to pick up some clothes for the children. I have started working on accepting the woman I married to is dead, maybe that thinking helps me move on, I dont think I will be able to influence any change on her and thus saving my M. 16 months since BD and at this point I am ready to be over with this, stop suffering and forgive myself. I just want the pain to fade away.

Thank you for your support and time! You know it means the world to me. Pack

Last edited by Pack_19; 12/23/20 03:30 PM.

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Me 29 W:29
M: 5yrs T:10yrs
S:6 yrs S:1 yr
BD: "I want a D" 08/09/19
Sep: 10/27/19