As far as the fighting goes my 7 year old son said that he did and said certain things purposely to make us fight so we talk. I didn’t chose to argue with her I just responded to the attacks, which after long explainations to her about why our son is trying to save our M with poor behaviors she finally understood. (I think). Poor kid.
I don’t discuss things about OM with them, but told them if he or anyone else does anything bad to them or thier mom to they can tell me that anytime.
I complimented her looks because it means a lot to her and Because she complimented mine. But I did not go farther than that. I have cut out all pursuit to zero. She wanted to “start over as friends and see where it goes” I was like yeah sure... I don’t talk to her. She will get it lol.
I am aware this will be a long road. I was coming here looking for quick fixes that don’t exist. There is a good chance my wife will never come back and I will figure out how to be solo and happy or with someone else later. I’m okay with that, I’m done fighting gods plan for me. I do allow myself to hurt, to have times I cry, scream and feel the pain of the loss of the years of work I put in with her and how it was all suddenly gone. But I don’t let it rule me as much. And I know it’s not a symptom of a disease I can cure, it’s a chronic illness I will always feel. Like my shoulder aches when it rains.
I saw my in laws to pick up kids, they tell me they worry about me, they all love me. I told them I’m sorry I cannot be there for this holiday we all went there for 10 years but due to OM I won’t go. They totally understood. Even one of her sisters won’t go because of OM. I will be starting a new duty at the hospital I work to help with triage overflow. That will keep me busy. I will get there. I contact WW as minimum as possible only when necessary and I try to stay short positive and to the point. Only been a few days of that, actually doing things right. I’ll get there. I’ll be back to update in 6 days. See how the first week of actual DBing goes. Hopefully uneventful.
My next IC is Jan 5. I do talk to the therapists at work. They have been giving me good advice to drop her. I just was never able to follow it.
Last edited by Steve_; 12/20/2005:48 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
