I will say it time and time again. I’m afraid for you and your kids if she decides to come back. It would be the worst thing ever for everyone.

I read your posts and my heart just breaks for your kids. Not because she left. That’s their best chance at having a half normal life you if you get your side right.

But it is very very disturbing to see you say you son “made us fight” no! No! No! As adults, you guys chose to fight! That could have been handled much differently on your end . And the. You go on to keep saying “ i make sure to keep telling him to behave when he goes over there” this poor kid is going to feel like this is on him.

The best thing you can do is to make sure your home is a happy healthy home , that these kids never ever feel like an once if this is their fault (I.e you believe your sons bad behavior made you guys fight) then they will have their best chance at a happy healthy childhood. Absolutely non of this could be put in your children at all. Adult stuff is adult stuff. His behavior is a way of crying out. He is not happy with the situation there and it’s your ex’s responsibility to make it right. It’s as if you are more worried about hurting your chances of your ex coming home than you are about how your children handle this . Huge harsh statement, I know. But from over here, that’s what I can see, because this is just like an addiction. And quite frankly, her coming back wouldn’t be what is best for your children or you. She is a disgusting sick manipulative women. I’ve seen these types as psyche patients. You must know this. And how they manage to tear down their families and all their relationships.

I know you are hurting, but the cure to your hurt is not her coming back. That’s a temporary bandaid for YOU. Tylenol doesn’t “cure” a fever, it makes you feel better, but doesn’t take the underlying cause of the fever away.

You should be going to IC weekly at the least. You are a sweet man who needs to get some serious intensive help . For your kids and the sake of your own kids. Enjoy your Christmas Eve with your kids, don’t make any part of it about her. Just about the 3 of you.