So the last two weeks have been hell. My 7 year old boy has been acting out badly with OM. He has mentioned some things to my W that she had thought he heard from me and became infurated. He had also mentioned some things to me that she allegedly said. The poor kid wanted us to fight so we "talk" it made us fight and yeah pushed us apart.
Hi Steve,
Any IC appointments since that first one? I've had two therapy appointments in the past two weeks, and I feel my life is more or less going quite well. Lots of things immediately jump out at me--
1. S's behavior towards OM is your ex's can of worms to figure out. Your focus could be on getting fitter, validating your son's feelings, and making this Christmas amazing for him.
2. You struggle with personal responsibility--that comes up again and again in your sitch. Your son said things and it "made us fight"--no, you chose to fight. I don't fight with my ex-wife. I have suggested changes, and I have leveraged Child Protective Services when I needed to, to enforce changes.
Originally Posted by Steve_
1.Brought things back to Neutral with WW, 2.Deactivated my facebook. 3.refuse to discuss and R questions with children. 4.Ask them daily to be good to mom and tell them I love them. 5.Talk to therapist and friends at work who support me. 6.kept only snapchat where i can showcase things I do with my kids on my own terms (I do not look at WW snaps)
#2 & #5 seem the most helpful.
Originally Posted by Steve_
She since that talk sent me pics of the kids at her place doing Xmas stuff to which ive waited and then just replied with a thumbs up. I told her "so are you, really proud of your work!" and she said "thanks"
I have a visceral, "Ick!" reaction to continuing to interact like a friend with your WW.
Originally Posted by Steve_
(part of me hopes she does, but knows I cannot do anything about it anymore).
I hope that part goes away. She's cheated on you time and again. You can do better solo or with another.
Originally Posted by Steve_
who is happy destroying thier H and Kids and Family.
She destroyed the Family, but H and Kids can still have a great life.
Take care, Steve, I hope you have a Merry Christmas.
