I got another text last night asking why I'm being so curt and another asking why I'm so distant. So even in the small changes I've implemented, I can see the impact which encourages me to continue and do more.
IF you are DBing only to see the impact... ????
Then you are looking at this all wrong.....
And I think that you are trying to jump through too many of her hoops because you are trying to move forward whilst looking in the rearview mirror.
DBing is about making those changes for yourself, so that you can become you again....
And no matter how hard you try, you cannot lead from behind...
And, you are never gonna talk your way out of something that you acted your way into....
Why are you holding her accountable for your emotions ???
Why are you holding her responsible for your decisions ???
She wants out, and you are still treating this like a functioning marriage...
Why ???
Why are you looking to her, to find your path ??
What is it, that you want (for you, not the marriage) ?????
