Scout, if you have time, you might read 1hedlite's recent couple of posts about her H over on Newcomers. They were really really hard to read. (Getting this context is also making me feel even worse about some of the advice that was posted by male posters on her thread early on.) I wonder if you might have any thoughts for her. Her description of her H reads like someone with full-blown NPD. I think she could use some support.

xx M

Me (46) H (42)
M:14 T:18, D9 & D11
4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs
9/20 - present: R and piecing