It's not my intention at all to ignore the advice or fight it. I will ask questions though, which I think is fair. And for the most part I've tried to implement the advice I've gotten. For now though my #1 priority is Xmas and the kids, since this is likely to be the last one as a "family" we have - as f'ed up as that is. In the meantime I am not pleading or pursuing, I've stopped snooping, I've made huge changes in the way I communicate to her (maybe not all the way to where I need to be, but that will come after the new year), and I'm doing my best to GAL.
Good job! I have hopes for you, danielson.
I think people get confused. This site is called "divorce busting". I think the advice on this site gives you the best chance to do that. However, people need to realize that by the time they get to this site their marriage, as they know it, is over. If you don't adhere to the advice, I think it's about 10% chance that you can break the divorce. However, even if you DB well, your chances of breaking the divorce is still well under 50%. I know that is shocking to some, but I believe it's the truth. Quite honestly, it's lower if you are a man trying to break an unwanted divorce.
The positive is that if you DB well, you may not break the divorce, but you will have saved yourself and you are likely to be a hell of a catch in your next relationship.
