By the way SD, the better I got at detachment and GAL, the more my W would ask "What's wrong?" (We were IHS, btw.) I would always cheerily say "Nothing is wrong." Then I would go on with what I was doing, whistling happily. The more I backed off and gave her the time and space she had requested, the more frequent the "what's wrong?" question came. 2 months into my committing to try to DB as well as I could, she would actually come looking for me! "Whatcha doing?" "Oh just organizing my tools." Understand, she had no interest in where I was and what I was doing for months prior to BD.

That loss of control over my feelings and how I behaved started to get her curious about what was different. As long as I was following her around asking her questions, wanting to know what she was up to, she felt in control. This is not new stuff. This is distance-pursuit dynamic to the hilt! If you haven't read that thread, go read it. It is very eye-opening.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018