Relax and breathe. " I've been busy" is perfect. Incidentally it SHOULDN'T be a lie.
You can't screw things up unless you beg, plead or pursue.
Lack of self-control is the #1 enemy of DB. If self-control were easy, no one would smoke, drink, or be overweight. It’s very hard, but that's what it takes to turn things around, commitment to being counter-intuitive and fighting your impulses.
Going the other way is the only thing that may affect your spouse. The shortest path back together is a straight line in the opposite direction. The very best path is the minute your partner says they want out you smile, say "good luck with that", hand them a box of their stuff, and go live a kick-@ss life of your own.
