I decided to go, not to work on the marriage as much as to just to talk to a professional who has heard both sides of our story. I figure it won't hurt anything and our counselor has been a straight shooter so far.
I made the classic mistake of getting my W to an MC session, hoping it would fix everything. In hindsight it was crazy to think it would do anything given that she was regularly sleeping over at OM's house. The MC tried his best for 2 hours and I genuinely thought we had a chance, but when he said dump the OM for 6 months and just try, all she said was getting back together is 100% off the table. I somehow convinced her to come to a second session, she even sat there and booked it with me. Predictably, she didn't show up, I went anyway. It was useful, the MC gave me the advice he would have given me anyway, it was prepaid so seemed silly not to go. I got something out of it.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
