My H's affair really got my attention. Isn't that perverse?
I DO NOT advocate you having an affair-definitely not a good choice, but Michele suggests a 180 for us-would it work for you? Try all sorts of non-sexual touching, shoulder rubs, foot massage, rubbing feet in bed, but only feet, fluffing his hair, but stop at that. I don't know. I just remember my H would come home and I would be up to my elbows in dirty dishes and he would grab me by the butt or breasts and think he was being charming. I would rather have had a kiss on the cheek or a "hello honey, I missed you" or hug, not just going for the goods, ya know? Start small and work your way up to the good stuff. Would he like it if instead of saying "hello" I would just grab him by the crotch? Maybe the first time, but the novelty would wear off pretty soon I think.
Who knows. If everyone in the world was just rolling around having sex all the time, who would get any work done? What would the wars be about? Sex, probably.
Still love listening in.
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.
