"I will attend" is perfect. She has made her decision already known.
Steve throwing the curve ball!!
My original thought was talking to anyone is a good idea and even though she's a MC I thought she could have some advice for me. I didn't even think of cancelling until it was recommended. Now I'm torn.
The general guidance is to not attend MC with a wife that isn't committed to the marriage. That is the case in 90% of the couples that go to MC, and why MC has such a low rate of saving marriages.
There are exceptions. I went against traditional thinking and my W and I attended MC. BUT we got lucky in that the MC saw my W had one foot out the door and she focused on me, and my 180s. It was like IC with my W present. Until my W got to the point where she said she was leaning towards staying rather than going, then the MC transitioned into more traditional MC sessions for us.
The biggest problem is that most WAWs agree to go just to check it off the list: 'yep, we tried MC' Cancelling is a fine option. In fact I advocate you responding with "I have decided the MC is a waste of time at this point, so I will be cancelling all future sessions. I plan on attending IC to work on myself."
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
