Salty, it is within your power to pull the plug and go file for D yourself anytime. We tell LBSs that all the time. I encourage you to do that once you reach the point where you are okay with being D, are tired of waiting for your WAS, and decide you want to move on with your life. But not before. And certainly not as a ploy to try to "wake her up".
No, I wouldn't use that as a ploy and didn't even think of it that way before you mentioned it. Last night and this morning were just rough and I wanted to end things to hopefully end the pain. Which won't, I know that, but it gives you a twisted sense of power and control when you feel like you have none over the situation.
Originally Posted by Steve85
The gift we all go on BD was to be awakened and to stop sleep-walking through life! I know my life since the middle of 2018 has been way better than it was prior to BD. That is the one dirty little secret most LBS refuse to face. More than likely they were pretty miserable themselves before the D bomb got dropped on them.
I read through my journal last night and it was eye opening how miserable I was. Which seems dumb since it is MY journal. But it was like reading someone else's and thinking "why are you staying with her?" Of course the flip side is I tend to journal when I'm upset so what I'm reading isn't a complete representation of the relationship but a view of all the sh!t.
Originally Posted by Steve85
Only you know when the time is right to pull the plug, but you will know it.
I hope you're right because right now I don't "know" how I feel from hour to hour and I sure don't trust how I feel. But I guess as long as there is ambiguity and not certainty it is worth sticking it out.
