My last post on this thread was 2 years ago. Things are great in my new relationship. We are a large blended family and although it has its ups and downs, overall we are living life to the fullest. I am posting again, after the long hiatus, because I am in financial straits and I was wondering if I could learn from the collective DB wisdom:
In my state, every 3 years or when a child emancipates (as my S18 did), there is an opportunity to review and revise the child support orders. My xW requested the review. As usual, she benefitted greatly from the review. I will now have to pay her much more and she pays a lesser share of the medical expenses. Unfortunately, the fact that I have 4 additional children with my new W does not factor into child support orders. Also, child support does not take into account that xW refuses to pay for college for my S18 because he is no longer a minor, and I am shouldering the entire financial burden myself. At every opportunity, she has portrayed herself as a victim to get more scholarship money for camp and school. She has lied on scholarship request forms and she has avoided school tuition altogether in the past. She is not a victim. She is a financial predator. I am already paying for two households. xW is taking more money and NOT giving it back to the kids. She is essentially depriving them of money.
I am already not making ends meet, and I am still saddled by old debt from the divorce, school tuition, mortgage, camp, etc. My W and I are already working full time. Beyond the awful pit I have in my stomach from this, my question is what should I do in this situation? Should I just accept the new support orders and continue to amass more debt? hire a L and contest the change in the orders? Does anyone know the process to contest the proposed changes? Is there a way to do this without L? Which would be more financially beneficial - to accept the new orders or challenge them? Whom can I ask about this and who can help me make these calculations?
